Don't exert for children " Soft " Pressure

Don't exert for children " Soft " Pressure
The intersection of Shanghai and college entrance examination, high school entrance examination turn on, test just next month. In the face of influencing entering a higher school and examination of future in life this, examinee and who is more anxious of the parents? Reporter know in most instances, it is examinee that nervous than child parents have in interview. For this reason, some experienced teachers point out, when college entrance examination, the high school entrance examination comes, what parents need to do most " The homework " Should have gentle psychologies, meanwhile, don't exert the too big pressure to the child.

The pressure from parents is greater than a teacher

Most parents think, college entrance examination is really a " close " that the child chooses in life ,There are direct relations on child and family. A lot of parents " The important task " Have pressed onto the child. Especially there are those " Bring honour to ancestors " Consciousness sum " Compensate " Parents of the psychology, hope to find sustenance to all one's own on the child even more, require children to realize it " The dream not realized " .

A sample investigation discovery of one class of junior middle school of one school, the pressure that parents offer is one time higher than the pressure that teacher and the society offer, the examinee hears if parents said most: " it is the key these days, you pay special attention to holding tight for me " , " it has good mark to be better in future in the future " , " it is glorious to do in the test in the whole family well, it would be awful well if did in the test " ,Even some also exam scores to the child of parents have been set up " The lowest up-to-standard grade " . Some students call June " black June " under parents' heavy pressure , " gloomy June " .

" soft pressure " More harmful

Say until pressure from parents, " soft " which some students exerted to parents The pressure is special " Fear " . A Junior Three student says: "These days, it is very kind that family members treat me, but their expression in one's eyes makes me afraid more or less. Came back home, mother took the towel and let me wash the face and wipe the sweat, and then took out the cold drink of the refrigerator, having still finished the delicious meal, father not becoming house work at ordinary times even elaborates the pastry at night. However, all these unspoken words in a play is clearly: ' I only take an exam of the good result out and reciprocate parents ', think of this, feels the larger the pressure is if I eat. "

" the child will participate in the high school entrance examination soon, it is the key to dashing now, I especially want to supervise him " ,Perhaps such words is customary, but in education expert's eyes, will judge " not up to standard " ,Close to the examination, the child's pressure will rise suddenly, parents chatter again, will let children can't bear the heavy load. And appropriate" Reduce pressure " ,Can let children relaxed.

The pressure is a " double-edged sword "

Parents' pressure to child, is a " double-edged sword " . An expert who is engaged in studying psychological research for a long time points out, the child is only limited at the pressure before doing in the test, can help to stimulate the child's inherent motive force; But exert pressure excessively, will destroy children inherently and should surge the system, exert a negative influence. Some people drop memory; Some find it hard to concentrate all day, it is irascible and apt to cry; Some ordinary food and drink is not thought of, or endure the puzzlement of the nightmare to the fullest extent This is to emerge because of receiving excessive pressure overanxiously, so that plant nerve problems of the health.

Shanghai teach department institute home education researcher happy to good at shining to point out, parents pay close attention to the fact the child's high school entrance examinations, college entrance examinations, it is a thing in the reason. However, inculcate one's own idea with to children completely, even weigh the child's prospects with the achievement, it is not biased. He proposes, parents especially should notice that help children to do " reduce pressure " "homework " ,Even care for to stop before going too far, meet the upcoming examination with a usual mind.

Staff reporter Su Jun

Don't exert for children " Soft " Pressure