Pay close attention to the fact surviving children accompany the

Pay close attention to the fact surviving children accompany the earthquake more importantly than to talk


Lasting and smooth company, can conciliate surviving children's soul. Pursue to send in Xinhua News Agency
Earthquake make a lot of homeless child, lose relative and parents bitterly, they require assistance hands, continue going down. Turbulent environment, the relative leaves away, people's depressed mood at one's side, to they not growing up yet, easier to bring various happening suddenly and potential psychological crises. The children need a shelter, comfortable person, find the tranquility of heart again.

In the short time after the disaster takes place, children will have a stage that mood breaks out. At this time, their response is fiercer, scream, have nightmares, scared out of one's wits, the health importance of the unidentified reason is frightened, etc to the environment. The development behavioral centre director Zou XiaoBing, child of institute, of Zhongshan three points out, sensitive to the environment, it is very common responses of children. Take earthquake as examples, rocking on the stretcher, perhaps cause mood to be out of control too.

The familiar person can be more easy to help children

But some react, may hide for several months, even will not show until one year. So, understand the person of the child, can give them better help. The most appropriate one is the parents, secondly it is relative, neighbour knowing well it, then a special consideration their doctor, nurse and volunteer.

After the calamity, school and psychological consultation expert, will dredge the psychology of the colony to children. Some children will take a favorable turn to some extent, but will pay attention to each child's special behavior even more. To the child presenting the psychological problem easily, pay close attention to more.

The aptest children who present the psychological crisis:

Oneself or parents are injured, stranded

Witness the person around dying in an accident

Parents passed away or scattered

Parents suffer the serious blow

Girl

Peace and quiet is the unusual manifestation

After a boy 12 years old is rescued, sustain a severe injury, comfort the volunteer who looks after him, don't cry. Everybody praises him for being strong, but he does not think so, because " I cry " .

Calm before people, but uncertain in the heart. Because a lot of children fear that it is weak to demonstrate, strong to propping up and does not cry, but heart has very large pressures.

Especially, when everybody praises those to help others' child in the earthquake, general child, may be constrained one's own mood further. Zou XiaoBing points out, after the disaster, the requirements for child can't be as before. Should allow them to have different behavior.

Psychological consultation the sooner the better

Pass by with time, children will try every possible means to digest the disaster, however, if it is improper to understand, will cause a lot of mood perplex, can influence think way of question in the future. Zou XiaoBing points out, before the response not good is fixed, will intervene soon, it is very difficult to change after being fixed.

In the psychology is intervened, it is the most important, help children to set up sense of safety. It is an effective method that the scene is reproduced. Accompany it at children's side, the gentle scene that they remember when the disaster take place of guide. Embrace children, let them try hard to lead mood off, the clear disaster has already gone over.

In addition, Zou XiaoBing still points out, resumes the child's sense of safety, should insist on accompanying for some time, give them lasting care. Don't only carry on for several times, cut off.

Don't let children forget the disaster

Children's mood is expressed, different from adult. Observe the child's behavior more, to understanding it is very helpful for them. A lot of children will not express voluntarily, but can try to do under inquiry.

Listen attentively to the child's experience and mood, let children know because uncomfortable to fear, frightened, or sad, the mood is very normal.

Don't tell children to forget the disaster, much mood is perplexed, because they want to forget hard, but can not cause. In addition, because they can not forget by oneself too, can not reach the requirement of the others' one, and it is ashamed to feel oneself inferior.

Children are apt to think, the disaster is the result that oneself makes a mistake, guilty because of this.

First of all, have a talk with child, why take place disaster, let them tell the idea, imagination and assumption to responsibility. If find the child has idea that feels guilty, tell he / her, the disaster is unavoidable, it is not anyone's responsibility.

Secondly, let children find out about death. The children of different ages, views on the death are different too. Find out about their view on the death, the idea that and then can be accepted first.

3- 5 years old: Deny the fact of the death, only care about one's own need, express and experience with hope.

5- 9 years old: The demutation that the sensible person can't die, but can't understand the meaning of the death, will have a lot of imaginations about the death.

9 years old later: Have a more intactly knowledge of death, it is easier and afraider.

In addition, perhaps children's mood is very fierce, make them unable to be calm, for example, extreme anxiety and depression, frequently have nightmares, it is unable to have a good rest. Zou XiaoBing points out, if necessary, reduces and reacts with the medicine, make them quiet as soon as possible, it is helpful too to psychological consultation.

Pay close attention to the fact surviving children accompany the earthquake more importantly than to talk