80% of the net friends do not agree in sending

80% of the net friends do not agree in sending parents to live in the old people's home Anxious and is said unfilially
Recently, enter the investigation of the old people's home in one for some forum about old man, 80% of the net friends say that unwilling to send the old man to the old people's home. But the reporter finds in the interview, some old men, in order to lighten the burden for children, show that can accept that move in the old people's home. The sociologist thinks, when should be turning back the traditional idea, recommend the new mode of supporting parents.

Give to parents and enter 80% of the net friends of old people's home " Never know "

Recently, have net friend issue one call on the net <>Model,it is short three day if you can't attract, click nearly 30,000 net friend, and publish by view for more than 1,000 net friend money order receipt to be signed and returned to the senders. In that 80% of the net friends express clearly that will not send one's own parents to the old people's home. Many net friend's words are very fierce: "Will you send one's own children to the orphan asylum? " "To yours how you parents were as a child, since they had never disliked you for your trouble, where are parents that how you have the face suspicion is old? "

However, the net friend " a tree Chinese flowering crabapple " After expressing the decision that can never be sending parents to the old people's home, say frankly too that has not really looked after the good old man at present. Many net friends have expressed the same feeling in the money order receipt to be signed and returned to the sender too.

Meanwhile, a net friend expresses too that will respect parents' choice, " if parents want to go, of and the old people's home with really good condition, I can consider. " However, the reporter finds this part of " middle elements " The biggest worry is still the view of the people around, are " just afraid I am unfilial that the neighbour around says. "

Say acceptably in order to lighten children burden parents

"Being busy with work, son come over, see I by the way come off duty by irregular steps, wait, go, give tutorial class at the grandson again for a moment more, the meals can not be all eaten. " In order to lighten the burden for the son, lady and son Kong discusses, want to move to the apartment for elderly people to live. "Live in there to be too pretty good, peer, together can speak pieces of sentence, child come back home, wait for two days with them if having time, always see him rushing about and loving like that strongly every day more than I. "

The reporter knows, as early as four years ago, a survey report of Beijing Municipal CPPCC revealed, there are 12.7% of the old persons in Beijing city at present, have " the organization supports parents " Purpose. But besides objective factor such as being in short supply of the berth, more the elderly and their the children greatest worry are still views from people around. "Hit me and say that want to go to the apartment for elderly people by oneself, the friends and family around phone to be defended against an injustice ceaselessly, ask whether the son has treated me unfairly. " It is said with a smile that Ms. Kong is bitter.

-Expert's suggestion

Change the traditional view

Explore that supports parents newly

The reporter has consulted the social concern expert on this question too, the expert says, because in the traditional idea of our country, it is " big and unfilial " that children do not support parents for parents ,This makes a lot of people conflict very much " The old people's home " Concept. But meanwhile, a lot of old men have not got appropriate treatment physiologically or psychologically, live a unhappy life.

The sociologist proposes, if changing this current situation, should turn back the traditional idea first, compared with the situation that two people support four old men, it undoubtedly has advantages that the organization supports parents. However, in view of the traditional custom, " support parents at home " It is undoubtedly a kind of beneficial mode that is worth recommending too. Namely" based on community service, offer complete services of different fields such as medical treatment,etc. by community, in this way children rest assured, the old man Shu Xin too. " (reporter He Xin)

80% of the net friends do not agree in sending parents to live in the old people's home Anxious and is said unfilially