" The latent wedding clan " The job market prevails

" The latent wedding clan " The job market prevails gradually Expert: This careful dangerous game
With the making known publicly of married information of Andy Lau, star of amusement circles, " latent wedding clan " A word is getting popular quietly in the society for the moment.

Xiao Sun working in one proprietorship of this city has already been married for more than 1 year, but she claims in the public occasion: Not finding the target yet, " I am still single " . " latent wedding clan " Last wedding to give up, last telephones very intimate at office never characteristic; Generally a person goes home by car, fond of participating in various parties, but avoid discussing the emotional marriage; Heat of relation with opposite sex is held in place with a net at ordinary times, scarcely keep in touch privately.

Since ancient times, have felt more " only fresh " to get married all the time Thing,but at present at city " whether it is latent wedding " Why conceal one's own marital status sedulously?

" latent wedding clan " Difficulties: Under the pressure of society and job market pressure

One is directed against " The latent wedding clan " Investigation last " it is latent wedding " It is not in the imagination just like that " Distinguished and admirable " ,But because the pressure which society and job market have, have to avoid the marriage topic. In the investigation, about " latent wedding " Reason rank the first place: " try to get the development with better undertaking in order to keep the job " , " fear to be squeezed on the community outside " ,And " latent wedding clan " Age most to be here for 25 year between 35 years old and.

Have already been married more than 2 years, Xiao Chen working in the unit in one overseas-funded enterprise of this city and forbidden wife's coming to oneself, forbid wife instead of have a phone convesation, " the latent wedding " that does not meet child quite some time work hours The state is very calm, think this is a very normal thing. He claims: "There is a potential competition rule on career now, once people stick the label of the marriage, often give a great discount in competitiveness, so I have chosen ' latent wedding '. ' latent wedding ' is a life style, it is a kind of existence tactics too. " Xiao Chen even thinks, in a sense, " latent wedding " Have broken people's traditional idea, is worth young people's recommending.

Indeed, in some units, recruit and choose the right person all to the single staff's slope at present, do not generally think single people have anything that is born, can attack in working wholeheartedly. The married personage " The latent wedding " And then, mean that there is chance that is promoted, receives a training, trains and shifts more.

The psychological expert reminds: This careful dangerous game

As to " latent wedding " The phenomenon, a few citizens giving an interview understand, most citizens think: " latent wedding " Inadvisable. White collar Zhang Li admits oneself is " The latent wedding clan " ,She and Nanjing smaller than, lead the marriage certificate last year in whom Shanghai work, because has not done the wedding banquet, Xiao Zhang is less likely to mention one's own marital status in the colleague. "In fact I do not conceal sedulously. " She says, oneself is a marriage of strange land, it is relatively troublesome to manage the wedding banquet, in addition, the wedding room has not been completed etc. yet, have to delay the wedding banquet. She thinks, oneself " latent wedding " It is caused by liking publicizing in individual character, it is not for job market's demand.

If the psychotherapy expert of the referral centre of the light psychological health of Shanghai Zhou YunSheng analyzes while giving an interview: Say in a short time, if " latent wedding " Purpose not to last the other side,is it " the well-meaning lie " ,Also harmless, but if is so certainly improper for a long time. Perhaps " latent wedding " It is useful to job market, can strive for to more friends, get more free space, but it should be candid to associate with people, in this way ability is firmer for a long time. Make personal secrets artificially, it is apt to misunderstand. Speak from the psychological angle, want a lie of round, need to make up 100 lies. " inner anxiety " While also want prevent " Foreign aggression " ,Because there are lies exposed by the colleague or friend, expose the possibility of the identity at any time.

Zhou YunSheng says, in fact " latent wedding " One dangerous game, long-term " in the intersection of marriage and state " Psychology imply, to weaken meeting party family sense of duty; If ingore feeling of one party of the spouse, for example forbid the other side to be seen off, forbid the other side to have a phone convesation, even does not meet child for quite some time, this kind of " underground " Like marriage life,is it serious to last marriage crisis. Take it seriously, exposed to sunshine, it can turn " the double-edged sword " into ,If does not hold well, will bring the injury to person around while injuring one's own. (Zhou QiJun)

" The latent wedding clan " The job market prevails gradually Expert: This careful dangerous game