35 -year-old puzzlement, do you have?

35 -year-old puzzlement, do you have?
" Ding Ke " The family, the personnel director of foreign enterprise, annual pay are more than 500,000, there are cars in rooms, go to U.S.A. to go on business, travel to Europe, go to Hong Kong to do shopping This is sketched, " envy the people very much " in others' eyes by life of a pair of married couple 38 years old They,consult job teacher,but complain " whether it is empty on the heart, can't well up sense of loss always " .

The such one sighs, the experts of training organization of enterprises and professional advisory organization hear again and again recently. They find a great deal of 35 year old about the intersection of career and people seem, fall into first Section of life perplex one simultaneous, this is criticized " after 70 " ,In go through fight, some already become a fact until own trade transcendent 10-15 year, but can not think over how to go next for the moment; Some are being difficult to make the transition to struggle earnestly for job market's career - -In " middle aged crisis of 45 years old " While still facing in the future far, already " 35 -year-old puzzlement " Have shrouded.

The undertaking ceiling is unable to break through

A technical staff of IT communication company was 30 years old ago, besides working or working every day, he fears the knowledge studied by oneself and wears out, fears and is eliminated in the competition, crisis awareness hover in mind all the time, then make more efforts, work, work overtime, it gets married to be often potluck. After striding into 35 years old, he still thinks that can not reach the goal expected oneself, because a lot of university classmates are heads of the department.

It seems that in a lot of trades, become a threshold at 35 years old, while requiring youngerly in a lot of enterprises, their undertaking has not been broken through yet, follow puzzledly: Continue like this, position difficult to change, work difficult to make loud achievement. The method that a lot of career personages take is to attack in working wholeheartedly at this time, the work overworks etc. and begins to appear too.

Senior professional planning designer, Zhu ShiBo of manager of Zhongzhi talent information department think, some career people did not plan one's own future carefully 30 years old ago, felt that can not " stand " during 30 years old by oneself Stand up, the obstacle facing age again that and changed one's profession, younger person has already stood out, they begin to suspect one's own ability, even begin to suspect life.

The whole battle external world of self- cognition appraises

One may well say while being that pair of " The diamond neck " "Ding Ke " It is kind and flat while exchanging with training the expert, king of the thinking management advisory corporation for married couple, the ones that state frankly in the heart " Vast and hazy " : "Sense of achievement and happiness sense of life are not very strong to now, it is a personnel director inside enterprises today, should I do the busier Vice President? Also reduce the staff suddenly tomorrow perhaps, nothing at all then, have the worry right away while being indistinct. "

A more interesting example is that there is a piece of white collar engaged in the work of investment bank, is one point perplexed now " I can be regarded as an expert? " It is thrown for ten 56 years that he did, suddenly, someone begins to call him an expert, "just it is not a little too used to it to begin my heart, then is used to it letting. A few days suddenly others did not call me an expert, I lost very much quickly. "

Wang ShanPing says, though the professional manager some 35-40 years old has already become " successful personage " on the surface ,But because lack clear holding and cognition to oneself, then, are relying on support and approval of him of the external world in their feeling, the ones that have produced heart are vast and hazy naturally.

Do not want the quilt " The social role " Kidnap

Find after the professional advisory organization is to consulting case analysis: Man at stage of years old this age 30-35, it is the most that jobs are puzzled. They generally have " Three Tenors " : High desire, high pressure, risky. " the Three Tenors " Existence last age bracket man career people prone to various puzzlement of.

"In more than 30 years when people grew up of the seventies, went through a great material course, socialized demands such as the car of the house, going abroad to study, getting promotion and becoming famous,etc. pour in, then when they are chasing these socialized demands, it is not enough to care about oneself's demand, have lost oneself finally. " Wang ShanPing analyses like this.

Wang ShanPing also especially mentions, in our education system, go from primary school to the university, while paying attention to ability and training, lead child pay close attention to to there is few education heart, so there are more they and is kidnapped by the social role, but such social role and one's own heart are not mixed, the inanition of heart does not know how to adjust rightly.

Zhu ShiBo is to the suggestion of this colony, on one hand, should assess oneself rationally, make the rational job goal, finish making the transition according to trade environment and one's own current situation; On the other hand, want, equilibrate, work and have a rest, make oneself like thing that do, reserve the space that thinks for heart.

Staff reporter Li XueLin

35 -year-old puzzlement, do you have?