The office gets married and longs for the hotbed outside

The office gets married and longs for the hotbed outside The unmarried daughter above the average age for marriage shows favouritism to " The second hand man "
"It is very late at night, around he falls into a profound sleep, but I can not fall asleep really. I leave the bed silently, pick up mobile phone and suitcase of him, come sitting room, as make thief, translate, seem. In fact I do not want to do it in this way either, if really check that goes wrong, I do not know how to face. However, I was constrained very much in this period of time, that so-called colleague always phones him, since it is thing of work that say in good taste, why hide to go to the study to talk mysteriously, , he wants to betray our marriage, in other words, he has already betrayed "

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The pure office?

Or " extramarital affair " The hotbed?

"90% of the extramarital affairs take place in the office. " This one the intersection of investigation and to conclusion that extramarital affair make organization of Hong Kong. The reporter has made the inquiry to the career personage around on this topic, most people show, though this data are a bit too high, " extramarital affair of the office " But exist, and will be getting more and more.

"A lot of people in both sides of the extramarital affair, ' the good person ' whom everybody praises, its marriage is often happy too. They do not do it intentionally, but long-term work contacts letting they are before realizing yet, get deeply stuck in love already, this said ' grow the feeling with the passing of time '. " The career personage Mr. Zheng says. "Working rhythm nervous now, with lover time might yet as with to large time have colleague, moreover, the colleague will dress up only freshly and beautifully every day, that one of the family is often untidy, unconsciously, are attracted by this of the office. " 40 -year-old Ms. Cheng says, one's own one meets such a thing at one's side. However, this is a dangerous game, after you can't speak the happiness explained while realizing that kind, also will encounter the agony difficult to tell, that extramarital affair protagonist by her, have a broken home with one's wife and children drifting apart finally.

Though most people are right " The extramarital affair of the office " Show, condemn for, but a few people understands, " high pressure of the job among them, working time is long " The important reason which becomes intergrowth sincerity of colleagues of men and women, in the busy work, they make eyes at, work overtime, have a get-together and become their ambiguous main moment even more through convenient network tools such as QQ, MSN,etc..

Everybody trying to get a word in

Extramarital affair, what if it is impossible to defend?

In this one " Small three " The times walking crosswise, " office " Have provided convenience, has created the condition for the person who oversteps the limit intentionally with its unique advantage. As the innocent person's party, how to treat? Please listen to their voice:

A: Divorce, let that net body overstepping the limit appear in the family

Meet such a thing, two words: Divorced. Do not you seek the true love? Then put down true love that all property looks for you, must at this time not be soft-hearted, also want to retrieve the emotion in the past, he (she) Why not think about once sharing the weal and woe together while overstepping the limit? Would rather have mirror of crack. In fact, if everybody can reach common understanding to this question at the beginning of getting married, you would not present a lot of tragedies too if you are following. --Miss Hu

B: Sign the gentleman's agreement before getting married

The same as blaming women in most compassion feelings, as I learn one's own husband has caught this " fashionable " too And then, I wail and make a scene, extremely grieved and over, have chosen to excuse me finally. It is very simple to say, can really do and stand up extremely difficultly. A solid year, on the surface, the family returned to normal, but that hang-up of mine exists forever. Propose the person who prepares marriage thinks the question over before getting the card, makes a gentleman's agreement, one part more to look out, much a responsibility. --Ms. Cai

How much does it have happy, what agony does it have

The persons who narrate: Wind, male, state at present of 31 years old: Have already stopped the extramarital affair

Under the ambiguous light of KTV, she and I, a love song of antiphonal responses unexpectedly exuding tenderness and love, and taken her by hand consciously or unconsciously, I was very excited at that time, perhaps in subconscious, what do I or hope and she happen She and I become a colleague to have enough and to spare in one year, there are one's own families respectively. She can dress up very well, is good at chatting too. At the very beginning, we only ordinary colleague, some day, she work produce some little mistakes, lead, criticize for, mood for a whole day is very bad, I meant to comfort her face-to-face, afraid of causing others' censure again, convince her by patient analysis in QQ.

Everything natural, can with talk increase of number of times, we even further intimate talk have. "Why not come to work yesterday, I worried about you very much. " When I sent out this information to her, heart hesitated. But the devil of heart, that impulse, always impels me to make some one's own thing unwilling to face.

It is very amazing to say the thing stolen, very happy too, really so, after she and I lead along by hand intimately, the label of the extramarital affair is stuck on me formally. Often lie and say that works overtime to the wife, pay a formal visit to the customer, in fact look for with her happily. Before going home, " sterilize " for the mobile phone ,Delete any record related to her

I think everything flawless, although know that is playing with fire, has never confirmed " gives up " Time. I came back home that evening, in then the ones that pushed away and opened the door instant, the wife was holding the baby crying and screaming to walk up and down in the sitting room. At that time, I was extremely guilty. I decide to finish the emotion outside that section of enclosure tomorrow, manage once very warm family of ours carefully. At 11 o'clock, the child fell asleep at last, the wife stood up and took out a piece of paper to pass me from the drawer. " divorce agreement " ,Originally, she knew everything. Two lines of clear tears flow from her face slowly, but can not stop really. I have a bad headache, feel that makes no adequate defense, I have not thought of giving up this family at all. Swear, guarantee, repent Finally, the wife " compromises " ,it want she losing of for childing father.

Before everything seems to return to, when I go home, the wife will still represent and give me a smiling face, just that smile is very stiff, sometimes, I will find she sheds tears stealthily when staying alone. Heart of me ache very much, I know when could return to in the past really the family, I'm afraid it is very difficult.

Having the daughter left shows favouritism to the second hand man

The persons who narrate: Reveal dawn, female, state at present of 27 years old: Ache and go on

He injures the deepest man of mine, I ache very much obviously, but is still insisting on, what I really take a fancy to him, is it really only a simple spiritual love? Even I myself will deny. " the line manager, salary is 30,000, there is the car that has rooms " ,These material conditions have played some function.

One year ago, I jumped to that company, he received me as the direct superior, How do you do, I palpitate with excitement to him. It is very happy to work with him together, he who is optimistic can always let the oppressive office become lively, I discovered I have come to like him a bit. Because has already joined " Have the woman left " Ranks,in love, I being getting more initiative often to carry out. Work overtime, so as to thank " guide and support while being the ABC of " of him for I that day In order to be invited him to dinner, he assents joyfully. After a meal, we go coffee shop again, until 12 p.m., he sends me home. The next day, he sent one and " smiled " on the net Expression last I,for pieces of present. Opened and saw suddenly, it was an exquisite crystal that hung and fallen, a silk was happy to swarm my mind. Colleague small A see I and he walk near, remind I of: He may have already got married. My heart is amazed by, feel immediately that wronged.

After coming off duty, I invite him to meet. After I query, he stands up strictly quickly, then say to me affectionately: "I am not inclined to conceal, does not just want to injure you, I really like you. " Originally, 32 -year-old he marry 4 years already, the wife was a university classmate with him, graduated, admitted to a local civil servant. He has been working in the company, needs to be often on business to other places, stationed in Guangzhou all the time since last year. Because it gather few from more,get along well in addition mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relation,strengthen two contradiction of people gradually. The ones that are looking at him " The true feelings are honest " ,At that time, unexpectedly I produced an evil thought: Why not if an extramarital affair comes? Moreover, I really like this material man, I forgive his concealment. All is after being honest, we reach an agreement, continue the secret contacts, love very much each other some time later, he chooses to stay with me.

Seeming very ridiculous, we had spoken of the agreement unexpectedly in front of the sacred love. However, in this material society, this seems not at all surprising again. Even if I think it free and easy, can be with the deepening of time, as he is hesitating constantly, but I am more and more in pain, want to give up, a little unwilling; Do not give up, but always see and can not hope.
The office gets married and longs for the hotbed outside The unmarried daughter above the average age for marriage shows favouritism to " The second hand man "